There’s nothing like a warm fire, a beautifully lit Christmas tree and a family gathering to remind you what you’ve lost. Whether it’s a parent, a loved one, a relationship, family change, or even a dream you watched fade away, if you’ve experienced loss, Christmas can be especially hard. For many of us, the fuzzy feelings of Christmas are attached to memories. Memories that, during foundational years, we built with someone special. So what do you do when the holidays are filled with more grief than with joy?
Remember, one day God will make everything right
‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. – Revelation 21:4
Remember, Jesus understands your pain fully and grieves with you.
When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled...Jesus wept. – John 11:33, 35
When it’s hardest to swallow, remind yourself that God has been good to you.
The Lord is righteous in all his ways and kind in all his works. -Psalm 145:17
Take a moment to thank God for the people you have in your life now, and the people who have have come and gone that played a part in shaping you.
If you have experienced loss, take some time today to be honest with God about how you feel, then prayerfully read Psalm 3:3 aloud a few times. Consider sharing some of your best memories of the one you lost with someone, and ask them to pray for you.
If you have never experienced grief or loss, it is likely that someone you know has. Ask your parents or a loved one to share about memories they had with someone they loved and lost. Offer to sit with them in their pain, and let them know you haven’t forgotten.
Pray: God, Thank You that You understand my pain. Help me to trust You with everything that happens in my life and to find hope in You when all hope feels lost. Protect me from despair this Christmas season, and keep my head lifted to see your goodness, love and sovereignty in what I'm walking through right now.